dear god it’s been so long i don’t think i can just pick up where i left off, but i also can’t leave you with nothing…. hmmmmm…. sooooo much has happened.
here’s what I’ll do. i won’t fill you in on everything; i’ll give you the random but necessary parts so you can see why and where i am today, then we can go back to our daily, well my daily chatter. i promise i am going to try to keep up from now on.
so until april 2009: no contact with d. this was a vow to myself and i was sticking to it.
and then…. slam, like a fist to the gut on exactly april 1, 2009, i receive a text from m (d’s best friend) saying “w is not only d’s girlfriend but also my friend so leave her alone.” now really i wasn’t quite sure what this meant due to the fact that i hadn’t talked to d or any of his friends in awhile, a long while, so i had no idea who w was, i couldn’t point her out in a crowd, and now that it had been so long that really…. who the @$#% cares!
now let me take a minute here to mention that i was at work during all this and had to sit through a very dull, unneeded, unnecessary and completely ridiculous work meeting. if the day was designed for rage building, not team building – this was it. i hit the roof!
then i leave the meeting and step outside with j, who might i mention was just as taken aback and pissed by this text as I was – i believe her words were “why won’t they leave you alone”.
i want to explain something real quick, first i’m a bad liar and second j works with me so you figure 9 hours a day with someone and you know what they are up to…. if i call him, she knows, if i don’t call him, she knows, if i text him, she knows, if i email him she knows if i…. well you get the point, she knows what i’m doing all. day. long.
now after some extreme shaking (it was like i had parkinson’s), screaming, tantrum throwing, and about 10 cigarettes, i reply to m and copy d. “why are you guys doing this to me? leave me alone! stop bothering me!” i have nothing to say to you people! (like my “you people” reference?, yeah i do too, so derogatory)
now all this info i’m giving you is very, very, very condensed…. a lot more texting happened back and forth with m, d and i.
here it gets good – she calls…. w herself has the nerve to call and apologize and let me know that the whole thing was a big misunderstanding and she just wants us all to be friends and get along, like one big happy sick and twisted group orgy.
little did she know that a few weeks before d actually broke into my house and tried to get in bed with me…. oh and then she asks if we can go out and get some drinks together . she really wants to meet me and get to know me, even if d doesn’t approve! i wanted to shout are you stupid? why do you think he doesn’t approve? hmmmm. maybe he has stuff to hide and maybe i don’t care about making nice with you.
do i shout that? nope. instead i happily decline stating that i’m sure she’s very nice and under other circumstances i’m sure we’d have a very nice time. i don’t say anything rude or obnoxious about d, (because after all I am a lady and do have some class), hang up and scream to bloody hell, the lady in me had left the building.
from that point on i have made no contact – none – and i have, in fact, the happy faces to prove it, so please go ahead and challenge it. I dare ya.
now that doesn’t mean he hasn’t tried. i’ve gotten numerous hang-ups at odd hours, a couple blank texts, some missed calls, oh and even some fascinating voice-mails. how do i know these voice-mails are his you ask – well let’s just say i have a secret that i won’t reveal – but rest assured – it. is. him.
so how am i today you ask? well i’m here, doing well, and feeling good… for the most part. i’ve started a new chapter in my life and have removed so much of the bad, this doesn’t mean i don’t still have a lot to work on or that i don’t have rough patches. i still fight depression every day, it just means i’ve removed a 10 pound weight from my large pile of weights. but my struggle is lightened by that much more.
so on this planet i definitely am just a bit lighter….